Eating dinner with your kids around the same time every day, or always reading a book with them before bed, are the kinds of family routines that can make a big difference.

“It creates connection, and connection is the basis for a lot of really important things in childhood and child development,” said Kate Eshleman, a psychologist at Cleveland Clinic Children’s, explaining that routines also offer structure and help kids recognize what to expect. Dr. Eshleman notes without a routine, children may become more disruptive or anxious because they don’t know what to expect.

Research shows a lack of routine can even affect a child’s self-esteem and independence.

Family routines don’t have to be rigid, what matters most is that they exist and work for your family’s needs. Whether it’s school-morning rituals, evening meals, homework time, bedtime stories, or chores, predictability helps children feel secure and supported.

Dr. Eshleman says it’s never too late to start a family routine and encourages patience as everyone adjusts.